Thursday, September 11, 2008

Venting. . .

There are no cute pictures in this post or sentimental statements. No fun stories of cute baby antics or mommy blunders. This post is strictly my rantings. I have to say it. Some people are just ignorant. I know that sounds a little harsh but they are. Let me explain. . .I was at the grocery store today picking up few things that we needed. As some of you know I receive WIC to help with cost of having triplets. Well, while I was checking out and using my WIC checks the lady in line behind me was apparently annoyed that I was taking an extra five minutes to check out because of the checks because she sighed and rolled her eyes at me several times. Now I realize that if you are in a hurry this could be an inconvenience, BUT could she have asked politely to go in front of me or perhaps gone to a different register? There were several open and no one in line behind her. Well, I then found out that I got the wrong cheese, the one I picked was not WIC approved. The supervisor at the grocery store was nice enough to switch it out for me but of course I am stressing because of the snob behind me that keeps rolling her eyes at me. So, I ask the poor girl behind the register if she could please check the lady out and I would wait. I mean its not like I have anything to do, I have 3 infants at home that are going to want to eat in about 10 minutes. Grrrr The lady then looks at me in pure disgust and mumbles a "Thank You". I was so upset. It made me wonder how many times I had sighed because the person in front me had to use WIC checks or food stamps. Now I know there are people out there that abuse these programs and are probably more capable then they come off, but there are people like Jeff and I that actually need these programs. We have never been on assistance before and are doing everything we can to provide for our babies without help, but for now it is a need. I couldnt help but think that the lady in the grocery store was looking at me like "why did you have all those kids if you cant afford them" and it made me so upset. In a recent conversation in which I was casually talking about having babies, I said "I cant afford the ones I have" (in a joking, but true way) and was told "you should have thought about that before you had them". Infuriating. I am really getting tired of the comments from people. The "I'd kill myself", "why would you do that", "thats scary", and all the other rude negative comments I get on a daily basis are talking there toll on me. I am just plain tired of it. These babies are nothing other than 3 blessings and thats how we feel about them. I know if I see a mom with multiple children, nary a negative comment I will ever make. My babies have already taught me so much. My lesson for today, dont judge the person in front of you in the line at the grocery store that needs assistance. You never know if that may be you some day. You dont know their circumstance.

3 comments:

Rebekah said...

AW! Poor Aunt Mary, I am really sorry that you had to go through all of that:( And your right those little babies are just 3 little blessings!(Even though I haven't seen them yet! LOL)

Well I hope that you have a better day! Love ya!

Jessica said...

Hi, my name is Jessica and I also have triplets. BBG and they are almost 3 years old. I'm not sure how I came across your blog, but I also live in NY. South of you, in Dutchess County. We also have a lake house on Sacadaga Lake. So we're not that far from you. Anyhow, Congrats on your trio, it's a wild ride as you know, but worth everything that comes with it. I have to comment on your grocery store incident, as the same thing happened to me but my perp was an elderly man making a stink. I ignored him for the first few times that he huffed and made comments. I had finally had enough and said to him "I've tolerated your comments and huffing long enough, you may want to consider the fact that one day you may be holding the line up for something important and there may be someone standing behind you breathing down your neck and annoying you like you are annoying me, so if you can't patiently wait, then go to another line!!" then I smiled at him. He was speechless and the poor teenager at the checkout line was mortified. But I got my point across, and there was total silence.
You are still in the early stages of fun....so much more in store for you. I'll spare you the details, just enjoy your time with them, it goes so quickly. If I can help in any way with advice, I'd be glad to, so ask away. You have a beautiful family!!

Grandma and Poppa,s said...

Mary, I'm sorry you had to go through that. Sometimes people can be so cruel. If by some odd miracle that lady was to read this, There's a few things I would like her to know, and the people with all the negetive remarks. My daughter is a beautiful, loving careing ,giving, wife, mother, daughter sister, aunt and friend to every path she crosses. She has been blessed with three beautiful babies, and a loving, caring, giving, husband. Theres an old saying, "Patients is a Virtue" So, to all the people who can only see the negitive, Try a little patients, You just might feel good about yourself. I love you honey, I hope your day gets better. Mom